A lot of people are talking lately about how they feel restricted in their blogging. Tammi's the one that got me thinking tonight, actually. Some people have family, others have friends, but we all have people reading our blogs that we just aren't sure we want inside our heads. I think that is the risk we all take when we decide to blog.

Fuck 'em. All of 'em. These are our blogs.

We put the blog out there to vent, to deal, to be validated. But we aren't always going to be validated. And what we think isn't always going to get a great response. Your mom doesn't want to read that you think her gazpacho sucks after she has been making it all these years ... but maybe she needs to. Maybe your friend needs to hear that you think she's being a giant bitch ... and maybe she needs to realize you're telling her for her own damn good. Maybe we could all use just a little bit more realism in our lives.

Treat people with respect, but fuck what they might think or who they might say something to.

If you don't want to keep reading about my opinions, you're welcome to stop. Don't get me wrong - If I can't say how I feel because of what someone might think, then maybe I need to reevaluate what I think. But if I am as comfortable saying to someone what I feel like blogging, it is fair game for the blog ... whether they like it or not. My only rules are protecting the feelings of those caught in the crossfire and covering my ass when it comes to work. Beyond that, I answer only to myself.

This is the written stream of consciousness from my mind, no one else's.

I used to be afraid to blog because of what someone might think. I wanted to be "in" and I didn't want to jeopardize that. I know that the gossip is going on, that alliances are there, and that your basic meddling is affecting lives all across the 'sphere. It kept me from being honest about what I thought. Of course I want to be liked, just like any other normal, regular person on the planet ... No one wants to be excluded, for any reason ... but, you know what? I'm not going to change who I am in order to be included.

If how I feel or what I think can destroy a "friendship," fuck 'em.

In some cases, that level of authenticity has left me on the outside of the circle. To be honest, it hurts. It hurts because I know I am an authentic, caring, fun individual. It hurts because I was genuine and not accepted. It is raw rejection without a sweet candy coating.

The friends that can survive disagreement and strife are the ones I want by my side, through the good and the bad.

There are people out there that think they are holding all the cards, that they have the world fooled with their innocent act, and that they are mighty enough to "bring people down" or have people ostracised from the group - mostly because they have been able to achieve just that - but no one holds all the cards, all the time.

And I think we've all heard the phrase 'what goes around comes around.'

Posted by: Princess Cat at 02:07 AM | Comments (9) | Add Comment
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1 woohooo! That's the lady I like!

Posted by: RSM at September 27, 2006 04:59 AM (fUhX/)

2 me too, rsm. rowr, princess cat!

Posted by: shoe at September 27, 2006 07:13 AM (vyOpm)

3 At the end of the day, you have to be who you are. Course my blog situation is slightly different because it's more for the organization than it is my personal blog. So you don't see too many of my own problems and opinions there. But I agree with you.

Posted by: Laurie at September 27, 2006 11:56 AM (YmcHY)

4 Ok, now you've pissed me off! (kidding!)

Posted by: Ogre at September 27, 2006 12:42 PM (oifEm)

5 You get it. Period. That's one reason I enjoy you so much!!!

Posted by: Tammi at September 27, 2006 08:35 PM (3UQTn)

6 So I come wandering in to the blogosphere tired tonight....then I read this, I think I have to read it again in the morning. You crack me up

Posted by: Armywifetoddlermom at September 27, 2006 09:14 PM (TeFOm)

7 Amen, sister.

Posted by: Pia at September 28, 2006 03:09 PM (DCFcV)

8 So true, even when people that I don't even KNOW started reading my blog, i felt i had to censor my feelings. time again for a totally secret blog.

Posted by: Sassy Brown at September 28, 2006 07:33 PM (HxN7u)

9 I can't believe you don't like your mom's guzpacho, I've heard it rocks.

Posted by: Sgt Hook at September 30, 2006 07:22 PM (ZkBlA)

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